Being cheated on is something many, if not all of us, fear when getting into a relationship. In truth, you never think your other half has the potential to do you dirty. Newsflash ladies and gents, it happens to the best of us! Nevertheless, cheating is awful but what is actually classed as cheating? Let’s discuss…
Well obviously kissing, touching and or sleeping with someone who isn’t your partner (without their consent) is 100% cheating, that’s a given. And yes, even a drunken smooch when you’re out with the boys is still cheating. Basically as my partner, if I haven’t given you the green light to have intercourse with Becky and you do it regardless then yes, you are a cheater.
Even folks in polyamorous relationships with a distinctive set up can be cheated on. For those unaware, polyamory is the practice of having intimate relationships with more than one partner – and it’s all totally consensual. Now, here’s another scenario. If I know that while dating me you are also dating Wendy, however decide to go ahead and sleep with Becky without my consent or without first alerting me then yes, my dear, you are also a cheater.
As well physical cheating, there is also emotional cheating. Emotionally investing in someone the same way you would your partner is 100% cheating. Attempting to start a new relationship and or build a new foundation with someone else while still in a relationship is whack as hell to be honest. Even if you haven’t ever gotten physical with this new person, the fact that you are allowing yourself to develop feelings for someone new is still whackity whack.
If we’re in a relationship yet you decide to continuously text Becky, going back and forth with cutesy ‘start of a new relationship’ messages then you, my dear, are a cheater. If you’re happy to go through the gruelling ‘getting to know you’ process with someone new while you’re with me then, again, you are a cheater!
Now here are a few things that I myself don’t consider cheating:
- Liking a guy or girl, other than your partner’s, picture on Instagram
- Remaining in contact with an ex
Personally, liking someone else’s picture on the ‘gram may seem slightly wayward to some but it isn’t actually cheating, not really. I wouldn’t expect my partner to stop finding other women or men attractive just because he’s now with me. The way I see it is we can admire pretty women together – twice the fun! Now, of course, if he doesn’t leave it at just liking the photo and extends that like to a DM then we’d have a problem.
If your partner is in contact with an ex then please don’t fret! It is perfectly okay and reasonable for your bae and their ex-bae to be cordial or even friends – it’s actually pretty healthy. If your bae is really down for you like they say they are, then you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
Now of course these are just my personal opinions and not reflective of the masses. It’s all open to interpretation really, but hopefully this helps some folks weary of a ‘Becky with good hair’ lurking around their babe.
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